tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post4945183774910372491..comments2017-05-14T23:07:22.668-07:00Comments on Not So Sloth: Two WordsChans Famhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15521296943092313585noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-69200500952679333852012-03-22T14:27:17.114-07:002012-03-22T14:27:17.114-07:00You bring up such a good point that I hadn't t...You bring up such a good point that I hadn't thought about. Being comfortable with those closest to us enables us to be less careful with our words and actions. And, I am definitely going to put Mothering with Spiritual Power on the "to read" list! Thanks for the suggestion.Chans Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15521296943092313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-51413722715070387462012-03-09T15:39:55.712-08:002012-03-09T15:39:55.712-08:00Chan, this is why I started going to counseling. O...Chan, this is why I started going to counseling. Of course it took a long time to find someone who compliments me. The thing is, you don't say or do hurtful things because you're not Christlike, because you are. My counselor helped me figure out where that was coming from and why. I had a hard time being kind and gentle (mostly toward Logan) because that's how my family treated each other growing up. I also, deep down, had a hard time believing logans intentions were pure and genuine. I didn't truly trust him 100%. Once I could see my insecurities and bad habits from childhood, I have ironed them out and am finding that i am much more responsive to lessons I learn when studying the scriptures, etc. I love the doctrines of the gospel. But, just like learning about Christ doesnt fix a broken leg by itself, it doesn't fix all of our tangled brain wires alone. When someone gets a broken leg, they can pray to heal quickly and then they go to see a doctor. When you want help and clarity for impulsiveness, you pray you will heal quickly and go see a doctor. I prayed for years that God would help me with certain things. I read self-help books, got blessings, prayed, studied scriptures. My heart ached for help but none came and I felt like I wasn't making much progress, like beating my head on a wall. When I started counseling, knowledge flowed quickly to me and miraculous changes began occurring. I knew then that God couldn't help if I didn't seek help from those He put on this earth to help me. I love you girl. And yes, you changed drastically on your mission. You came home with a calmness, confidence and grace that was so beautiful and still is.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09909707154628608504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-21320273546536906032012-03-09T13:23:22.177-08:002012-03-09T13:23:22.177-08:00Chandee, I loved this post. I definitely struggle ...Chandee, I loved this post. I definitely struggle with this problem and have asked myself why I treat those I love most so hurtful and others so nice. I feel like I get too comfortable and I know that my family will love me no matter what so I dont have to be as careful. But really, that makes absolutely no sense. It should definitely be the other way around. I really like what Kiya said. When I hold my tongue and step back and look at the situation from a different perspective, it most often changes everything. I have the tendency to yell at Peyton for doing something without realizing the motivation behind what she was doing. So I am working really hard on that.<br />Have you ever read Mothering with Spiritual Power? I love that book. It has helped me to be a better mom and also a better person in general. It takes verses from the BOM and applies it to life as a mother and wife. It seriously is amazing. Another thing I really struggle with as a wife is remembering to put Brandt as my #1. I just get so busy and caught up in everything else that I tend to neglect him and take everything out on him. So I have started praying every night/morning that I can remember to put him first and to remember the love that we have for one another. It really has made a difference in our relationship and our home! Good luck and you are definitely not alone in this!Jeannette & Brandthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09716394681175267135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-17384171697887938692012-03-09T12:56:05.188-08:002012-03-09T12:56:05.188-08:00What is the format of 7 Habits? Workbook or read ...What is the format of 7 Habits? Workbook or read only? Also is the thought record anything like this one:<br />http://www.allaboutdepression.com/workshops/CBT_Workshop/Automatic_Thought_Record.pdfChans Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15521296943092313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-9097554761258164302012-03-09T12:52:48.636-08:002012-03-09T12:52:48.636-08:00I'm going to have to look that one up. I don&...I'm going to have to look that one up. I don't even know the wordsChans Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15521296943092313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-62514245347720424542012-03-07T12:39:59.968-08:002012-03-07T12:39:59.968-08:00Hey Chandee! I went to counseling! It has helped S...Hey Chandee! I went to counseling! It has helped SO much! With my monsters I am working on. My counselor gave me this worksheet to do often called a thought record. It helps me understand my thoughts and feelings more and that helps me to be more rational and manage them better. If you google it you can find it in a PDF form. I'm also reading 7 Habits of a Highly Effective Person. And more than anything the scriptures. But I like how 7 Habits breaks the gospel principles into a simple form. Anyway - that's what I have been trying lately to improve.Sarah Crookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762373011720276535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-19840138592907401072012-03-05T11:27:16.985-08:002012-03-05T11:27:16.985-08:00When I was having some issues with critisizing peo...When I was having some issues with critisizing people, I would sing "Should you feel inclined to censure" in my head throughout the day. It really helped.Aidenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06851800610445700126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-15696621200399796272012-03-05T11:24:52.486-08:002012-03-05T11:24:52.486-08:00Such a great idea. The temple really does bring a...Such a great idea. The temple really does bring a lot of peace of mind and help me realize a different perspective to life. It is hard for us to find time to go together, but recently we were instructed by church leaders to go alone if you have to. I'm definitely going to put that on the goal list! Thanks.Chans Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15521296943092313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-24102075538176404532012-03-05T11:22:53.698-08:002012-03-05T11:22:53.698-08:00It just came to me the other night I needed to wri...It just came to me the other night I needed to write it down, but I was feeling pretty embarrassed at the same time. Glad to know I'm not the only one. I thing the brief moment of waiting is going to be key for me too...if I can remember to do it! I'm trying to think of some reminder I can wear or something that will help. <br /><br />I had a pretty bad experience the other day when I came home from working out in the morning. Daddy had the baby up and eating breakfast already and a plate of eggs on the table for me. I immediately saw them and said "I hate eggs!" Then I noticed he was working on the broken computer and said "What on earth do you think you are doing...I had specific plans for fixing it. Why didn't you ask me first?" He looked so sad, like a little child even. I had blurted out something so thoughtless and totally missed that he had put off his important study time to make my day just a bit easier. I felt like the biggest jerk ever! <br /><br />I will keep you posted on anything I find that works and hopefully you can do the same for me. Thanks for commenting!Chans Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15521296943092313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-68862540635599838862012-03-05T04:53:31.930-08:002012-03-05T04:53:31.930-08:00I think that everyone has this problem at least a ...I think that everyone has this problem at least a bit in their lives. I think that the Lord knew that I would have troubles that would bring me down or times when I would be angry and take it out on others. My advice to you is what the Lord told me in my patriarchal blessing. It says that in order to keep the sweet spirit that I have I should attend the temple even when it isn't convenient. I find that when I do that I am happier and not as prone to be nasty to those around me. I hope that this helps. :)Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10294659285617463871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4556307035339753793.post-44538678548236361822012-03-04T23:04:30.345-08:002012-03-04T23:04:30.345-08:00Ok, Chandee...you must have been impressed to writ...Ok, Chandee...you must have been impressed to write such a post. After having kids and receiving a bit more stress in my life, I have discovered this is also a HUGE flaw in my life. I NEVER grew up thinking I had "anger, impulsive" issues, but I do...ha. It feels good to read about your similar issue, I don't feel as alone! ;) It's funny you ask the question: "Why is it that I treat complete strangers and acquaintances better than I do those that mean the most to me?" because I have asked myself that exact question numerous times. You're not alone. It's easy to take our greatest blessings for granted sometimes. I am currently working on this and ONE thing I have noticed that has recently helped me is to laugh. Sounds odd but when I get fired up/stressed/annoyed about something I think about how it actually can be humorous because of the way I interpreted the situation. EX. Chase and I have had a few recent disputes as of recently over DUMB things but we realized we didn't see eye to eye because of the lack of communication. Now, if I want to get impulsive with my words, I stop for a BRIEF moment and think, "is the way I'm interpreting this situation accurate?" I can honestly say, that BRIEF moment causes me to hold my tongue which in turn saves the moment. Just about EVERYTIME, I quickly realize I was inaccurate with my interpretation. The most rewarding feeling is that knowledge that I held my tongue, preventing my daughters from hearing such violent words and tone (children are great motivators). If anything I think about how I don't want my children remembering me as that crazy, abrasive, rude-mouthed, mom. Good luck to us both! I would love to hear your advice/progress. Thanks for writing!Kiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06755363807353978480noreply@blogger.com